Women are supposed to be beautiful.
Evolutionarily we are to attract mates and so we work on our
appearance to make it pleasing to potential mates. Then we will have
offspring who will continue our genetic line. But in doing so do we
really need to hurt ourselves for that mate?
If you don't think it hurts to be a
woman try wearing a corset or high heels. Either you cannot breathe
or you have to adjust your balance so you will not fall over with
every step you take. These items are supposed to “enhance your
silhouette” or some such nonsense. As long as we buy into these
lies, and buy these products this myth will persist.
I have a daughter, whom I adore. I do
not want her to suffer to be beautiful. The thing is, she already is
beautiful. Why try to improve on perfection? I will try to instill
in her a sense of self esteem and help her realize that some of the
most hurtful people out there say they want to try to help. Her
friends who make fun of her, the friend who steals a boy she likes,
we women and girls can be very cruel.
A good example of that lately is Gabby
Douglas, the gymnastics Olympian. She was criticized for her hair
during what should have been a high point of her life. She is a
wonderful example to our daughters and others just want to cut her
down. Do you know what is done to straighten hair? It can be
astoundingly painful. Watch the Chris Rock documentary “Good
Hair.”
As for me? I will continue to wear
sandals and flats instead of heels (usually) and if I do wear heals,
believe me, they are comfortable. I am usually in jeans (comfort)
and a t-shirt. If I want to dress it up I add lip gloss and a “nice”
shirt. I do wear makeup, just not everyday. It is better for my
skin. My hair is wash and wear unless I decide I have the time to do
it and that will take as little of time as possible. My hair
stylist, Joe, makes sure it will work that way. There are times I do
get more dolled up for a date with my hubby or going to the Opera
with my Mom. Just not everyday and I try to keep things as comfy as
possible.
And my hubby? He does not seem to
mind. He wants to be comfortable as well. Not quite the
metro-sexual, and I do not mind that, either.
I will sign off with the famous Billy
Crystal SNL character “Fernando” saying very tongue-in-cheek “It
is better to look good, than to feel good.” Well, that may be how
some women see it but I would rather comfortably laugh than try to
compete in something that you will never win.
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